Telling people what you think of them
A practical guide to telling people what you think of them and why it matters for relationship-driven professionals.
There is a pattern that shows up in every strong professional network. It is not about volume. It is not about strategy decks or funnel optimization. It is about something quieter and more fundamental.
Telling People What You Think Of Them
Think about the last five people who referred you business or opened a door for you professionally. How did those relationships start? Rarely from a cold outreach or a networking event. More often from a sustained pattern of small, genuine interactions over months or years.
The pattern is always the same. A brief conversation. A thoughtful follow-up. A check-in three months later. Another one six months after that. And then, when the moment arrives — when they hear about an opportunity, when someone asks for a recommendation — your name surfaces. Not because you asked for it, but because you stayed present.
Making It Work
The first step is honest assessment. Pull up your contact list — your phone, your email, your LinkedIn connections. How many of those people would take your call right now? Not because they have to, but because they want to?
That number is your real network. Everything else is a directory.
- Categorize ruthlessly. Not everyone deserves the same level of attention. Group your contacts by the depth of the relationship and the frequency of engagement each one needs.
- Automate the reminder, not the relationship. Use tools to tell you who needs attention. Then bring the human element — a personal message, a relevant article, a genuine question about their life.
- Track what matters. When did you last connect? What did you talk about? What is going on in their world? This is not surveillance — it is caring enough to remember.
The professionals who build the deepest networks do not work harder at networking. They work more intentionally. They treat relationships as something worth organizing, tracking, and nurturing — not just something that happens to them.
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A relationship CRM like Relatable can help by organizing your contacts into priority tiers with engagement cadences, so the important relationships never slip through the cracks. But the tool is secondary to the mindset. Start paying attention to the relationships that matter. The rest follows.
Frequently Asked Questions
How often should I follow up with professional contacts?
It depends on the relationship tier. Your closest professional connections — the people who refer you business and open doors — warrant monthly touchpoints. Your broader network can be maintained with quarterly check-ins. The key is consistency, not frequency. A reliable quarterly message builds more trust than sporadic bursts of outreach.
What should I track about my professional contacts?
At minimum: when you last connected, what you discussed, and what is happening in their professional and personal life. This is not about surveillance — it is about caring enough to remember. When you reference something specific from a previous conversation, it signals genuine interest and builds trust faster than any networking tactic.
How many professional relationships can one person realistically maintain?
Research suggests most people can maintain about 150 meaningful relationships total — personal and professional combined. For active professional networking, a focused list of 50 to 100 key contacts is more effective than trying to stay connected with thousands. Depth beats breadth every time.
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